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What do others view as unfaithful
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Flirting
Accepting a drink/meal with a guy afterwork
16%
 16%  [ 4 ]
Kissing
41%
 41%  [ 10 ]
masturbation
8%
 8%  [ 2 ]
Full sex
29%
 29%  [ 7 ]
Nothing you have a right to do what you want
4%
 4%  [ 1 ]
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sevensisters
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PostPosted: Fri Jul 04, 2008 8:11 am    Post subject: What do others view as unfaithful Reply with quote

At what level do you think socialising becomes being unfaithful, presuming you have not told your partner about the friendship. I have my own view, with which my husband agrees, that I will share with you later.
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coolman
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PostPosted: Fri Jul 04, 2008 8:28 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

anything more than a peck on the cheek. Normal going out for dinner and drinks is nothing, as long as the intentions are not to get "more" out of it.
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animallover15
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PostPosted: Fri Jul 04, 2008 9:23 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

If its something you hide from your partner then I'd consider that being unfaithful!!!....If there's nothing untoward about what you are doing then you would gladly share the information!
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wildchild
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PostPosted: Fri Jul 04, 2008 10:28 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

i cant vote on this cos i would have to tick more than one-i think flirting is ok if thats all it is once it crosses a line then you are being unfaithful
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honbuns
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PostPosted: Fri Jul 04, 2008 2:09 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Flirting is fine, kissing is not other than a peck on the check, however giving someone a cuddle for emotional comfort I think is fine. Anything that becomes sexual though and you are over the boarder and cheating.
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Mr B
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PostPosted: Fri Jul 04, 2008 2:37 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'd say fisting is really pushing it too far.......
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noodles
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PostPosted: Fri Jul 04, 2008 3:24 pm    Post subject: Re: What do others view as unfaithful Reply with quote

sevensisters wrote:
At what level do you think socialising becomes being unfaithful, presuming you have not told your partner about the friendship. I have my own view, with which my husband agrees, that I will share with you later.


I think you should share your view
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MaxtheGaul
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PostPosted: Fri Jul 04, 2008 4:51 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

To my mind pretty much anything is OK provided your partner is aware of what you are doing and you are not hiding either facts or motives.

I wouldn't make a big issue about kissing someone, but I wouldn't dream of going further unless I knew my partner was OK about it.
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vixen37
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PostPosted: Fri Jul 04, 2008 9:35 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

honbuns wrote:
Flirting is fine, kissing is not other than a peck on the check, however giving someone a cuddle for emotional comfort I think is fine. Anything that becomes sexual though and you are over the boarder and cheating.



+1
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Cambridge
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PostPosted: Sat Jul 05, 2008 12:38 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

vixen37 wrote:
honbuns wrote:
Flirting is fine, kissing is not other than a peck on the check, however giving someone a cuddle for emotional comfort I think is fine. Anything that becomes sexual though and you are over the boarder and cheating.



+1


I agree.
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tobinfest
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PostPosted: Sun Jul 06, 2008 5:18 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

In business, we have a theory, "If you THINK you might have a conflict of interest, (whether or not you actually do), you probably do have a conflict and shouldn't take the job, etc."

Along those same lines, would you go to dinner with your workmate (harmless, probably), without sharing this with your lifemate, boyfriend, girlfriend, etc.? Would he or she be concerned or upset by your doing this?

Remember also, while your intentions may be innocent, your workmate's intentions may not be. He or she might be looking for more than an innocent encounter.

We all have done some things (the innocent hug or peck on the cheek for example) but if your significant other takes insult at this, or finds out about your doing so, you have little defense.

While flattering, watch your back and be careful. Is it worth the consequences?

My two cents. Good luck.
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Verve
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PostPosted: Sun Jul 06, 2008 4:38 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Whatever your partner considers to be unfaithful.
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sevensisters
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PostPosted: Wed Jul 09, 2008 6:50 am    Post subject: Re: What do others view as unfaithful Reply with quote

noodles wrote:
sevensisters wrote:
At what level do you think socialising becomes being unfaithful, presuming you have not told your partner about the friendship. I have my own view, with which my husband agrees, that I will share with you later.


I think you should share your view


sevensisters wrote:
I would be interested to know if anyone else has had a similar experience to mine. I recently booked a massage and on arrival was allocated a male masseur. This was a first for me and found myself really turned on as his hands moved towards my vagina and lightly brushed my pubic hair, I sort of wanted him to actually start to touch me. I am also pretty sure that he was aroused when he was massaging me as I felt his 'bulge' on a couple of occasions when he stretched to make the long strokes up and down my back. Should I go back as it felt very naughty but very nice.


My question stems from my post from some time ago (quote above) which I made some time ago as the experience has been playing on my mind. Ordinarily I would share the view that passionate kissing is the threashold for an unfaithful act. Last week I decided to share my experience with my husband who reasoned that a sensual massage experience by its very nature will sexually arouse. He has told me in the past that he often becomes erect during a massage session - including, when he has been massaged by a male. During our discussion last week he admitted to me that he had ejaculated during more than one massage and that he does not believe that he is unique. Surprisingly I did not have a problem with his admission as he only ever has a massage when travelling overseas with work and I now do not think that infidelity is as clear cut as passionate kissing. Basically, I think that the main ingredient to being unfaithful is deceipt and taking an active role in persuing sexual pleasure.
Consequently, should I end up in the same situation as before if it fels right I shall just enjoy.
Thanks you to those who commented and voted.
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sally wey
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PostPosted: Thu Jul 10, 2008 9:53 am    Post subject: Re: What do others view as unfaithful Reply with quote

sevensisters wrote:
At what level do you think socialising becomes being unfaithful, presuming you have not told your partner about the friendship. I have my own view, with which my husband agrees, that I will share with you later.



I haven't done the poll, I think being unfaithful is anytime you dont tell your partner what's going on, keeping quiet is the same as lying, what if your partner finds out from some one else, Sally
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EmilyB
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PostPosted: Fri Jul 11, 2008 2:09 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Kissing although I could forgive.
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